So she did go into treatment and stayed and came out after six weeks. The people here have been wonderful. Someone hostile and aggressive might blame the behavior on alcohol, but in fact might use also alcohol as a way to get disinhibited and to behave in the ways they want to. My very soon to be ex-wife drank, and drank for years. I am a recovering alcoholic, and in the process of doing everything and anything I can to maintain sobriety. Reading them really helped me — reading their stories, I knew I was no longer alone. I addressed him about it and he said he had taken some valiums and some energy drink.
Half way to where ever we are going she becomes a nasty drunk. This made me weep,,,my Husband is a drinker and made my life a misery and we only Wed December last year. However, an alcoholic cannot begin her recovery until she has admitted her problem. After he was transferred to prison, he reached out to me and said that sober he realized everything that he had, and that his classes and imprisonment had turned out to be the best thing that had ever happened. More importantly, I did not cause the alcoholism, I cannot cure it and it was never my responsibility to fix it.
I am a widow, high stress job. She learned so much at the detox hospital and followed it up with daily meetings or counseling sessions. Read the following tips to decipher which approach could be most useful for you: Confront Her This is the first and the hardest part where you need to make your girlfriend realize that she has a problem and you are concerned about it. Recently after another talk where she said she would stop drinking, I found her on beer 3, so while she was in the other room I poured it down the sink. I became aware of her drinking problem very early in the marriage.
A very intimidating approach could make her distant and a recluse while being too sympathetic might be simply ineffective. She points to it as some turning point in her life…. Stuffing away your anger or shaming yourself for how you feel only delays your recovery. Our kids are highly successful, beautiful children that have been raised almost exclusively be me. My husband would only drink at social gatherings not much and did his heaviest drinking by himself at night. One of the informal tenets in the organization is that when co-existing with an alcoholic, you did not Cause the problem, nor can you Control or Cure the disease. Then she called me from her center last week and she sounded different.
There is much more depth to our story, but the bottom line is that I have to learn to live without him. My father is a raging alcoholic. I can't even explain the kind of help you will get from everyone here but let me encourage you to keep posting ok. I kind of understood that but in the same time i can;t watch her doing that to herself. The drinking became worse 4 months after we had a child, she almost fell holding our daughter once. After he left the hospital, his parents forced him to go to rehab. This was the forst time she went to rehab.
He had talked about wanting another child. Please feel free to tell your own story. I am starting to regret my relationship with my bf of 2 years. It's better to be alone than go through that hellish way of life, I think. A good Freind of mine sent me a link to this site.
If you want a better life for yourself, put what is best for you first and dont wait around for her to snap out of it. Al-Anon worked wonders for me. He returned, drunk out of his mind, and began to eat. Even if you think the person who does this garbage to you loves you, they do not. Arguably, the most important step in any alcoholic's recovery consists of group and individual therapy. The beautiful man that I had fallen in love with was there, and I was learning more about him that I ever had without the cloud of alcohol and erratic behavior that it caused in him. I tried going to a Al-Anon meeting yesterday, but just parked outside, then left.
. Some might think it strange that such people do not learn from their mistakes and try and hook up with or teetotalers. Perhaps I would feel differently if we had children. They could not care less how what they do effects others, and if you are in this type of relationship, take some time to set yourself up, and when she gets in your face next time, let her hit you, get a restraining order, and start the healing. I went to visit and saw her mom, but I guess she forgot to add me to the list or didn't think I was coming so I couldn't go in to see her. I entered his hospital room and immediately started crying. One or more of their family were drink dependent and had to be looked after.