Quote: So anyways the reason for this post is that a guy who is a not so close friend of mine, but a better friend of my wife has some serious interest in my wife. I am married to a wonderful loving husband. As I said, keep your worries to yourself but still keep a close eye just to make sure she's still faithful. Needless to say I'm depressed long-term and don't feel like getting on in the world. What does the counselor say about living apart? A crush, as has been pointed out, is akin to an obsession.
I was upset with it so I went out of my way to pick her up to show I'm serious, but it ended up being that she took it as me questioning her motives and accusing her of being a whore. In both the cases, i never spoke with the guys, and both were married which i not knew. It's amazing that a person can make another feel so good about everything. So, I decided to share our success with reddit to maybe help other relationships. He kind of nodded hello and just looked and didn't stop smiling. I was never able to tell her how I felt about her. I am felling offensive, by thinking that i am cheating my lover.
Superficially, other than being annoying, it doesn't appear the other guy is a real threat. So Tue I didn't see the car, and he wasn't there. That's quite a motivational one, for me. If I get to know him better, perhaps we hang out beyond work, I can totally see us becoming fast friends. She moved out to live at her mom's house last week while she tries to resolve her issues to find out what she wants to do with the marriage. A man who is constantly smiling at you for no reason may also have feelings for you.
And wives like to talk to their husbands. But when they guys continued outside to talk to me he stood on the side and looked at a newspaper. . We have a huge age gap between us 27 years , but I still feel so attracted to him, as I would feel to a man around my age. It's the emotional turmoil the whole thing puts on your relationship that is hard.
I know he would break if I left him now, so I cannot. It will put many things in perspective for you. Personally, I believe that sudden avoidance can be a big mistake. As long as the two are balanced, Limerence won't fade. All without answers to help the hurt. I was always there for him and always was on his side and always tried to help. And that it was nice seeing him today He replied that his decision has nothing to do with me not respecting him or that i am a bad person.
My wife and I are going through some tough times right now and we have been seeing a counsellor to try to resolve our issues. After the meet he told me that he is attracted to me etc. Not long after that, he and this dude was training together and he kept looking at me. But now like we are strangers. How so ever he is being smart and keeping his calm.
For a week or so after that we texted casually, he was receptive but cautious, never saying anything incriminating always a gentleman. He acted stupidly, as if he had no idea I liked him and said, from now on just text me if it is work related. However, this is the time when you can step up and be a good person. Typically soulmates come into our lives to teach us and help us grow spiritually and from a personal level. It's the last thing I want to do but maybe the best thing that could happen also.
But I know in my heart I'm doing the right thing and that the universe will reward me with someone like him but more emotionally available. More importantly, giving any ultimatum however reasonable tells your partner that you value your needs over your relationship. Never complain or joke about your partner to your crush Even the most innocent joke can indicate you are not happy with your relationship. To have a crush on someone, no matter whether one or both of you are not available is absolutely normal. I spotted his alleged car, smiled to myself, and walked in. The married guy and I are really good friends and we still work together. She has talked in detail with my W and assured me that there is no one else and I trust that.
It's all such a pointless and a crazy way to be thinking I know. I'm a married guy, nearly 20 years, teen kids. I just wanted to share a song that im kinda addicted to. And he made his decision to cut all contact based on stuff he doesnt really want to discuss. I just can't do what he feels he needs; I won't do that to his wife. Unfortunately, she sees responds very tersely if at all. I was also mourning for his father and had never seen him cry so much before.
I appreciate all of your in put - I learn so much from you all. Any sort of reply from her could have been seen as an invitation, and I'm thinking that maybe it would have been tempting, so she did the right thing too. It was all very mundane, but her voice seemed a bit nervous and once she blushed. If your W wants to find a man to jump into bed with, believe me, she will, even if this guy drops off the face of the earth. It will remind both you and him that she exists, and will indicate to him that you are being respectful of her and their relationship. You or your partner's life is strained outside the relationship. Your wife is spending her time with a variety of other men, rather than with her husband.